In the spirit of sharing, I thought I’d include a cute thing Panda and I came across today as we were wandering the windy roads of Bel Air and driving up and down Mulholland Drive trying to find the best scenic overlooks. The plane continued on to spell something like Mio, but we lost sight of it, so I never did figure it out.
As for my post-Valentine’s Day report, all in all it was a most splendid day, starting at the painfully early hour of 8 and lasting until midnight. We got a delicious dim sum brunch before wandering the roads and discovering some random places. We hung out for a bit before heading out to Santa Monica, where we were going to have dinner. At first we tried Benihana’s, but the wait was two hours! -___- So, we went over to Buddha’s Belly instead, where they told us it was a 45-minute wait, but we got seating in no more than 20.
I love that place because of its chocolate fondue dessert platter. The food is always interesting and has a fresh taste I’m not used to, since it’s an Asian fusion type of place. They have the coolest plates and bowls too (and I, ever so easy to entertain, am immensely amused by this fact). Following that, it was getting late, so we headed back towards campus to hang out some more.
In the morning, Panda had given me a card that I wanted to read when we had peace and quiet alone to enjoy. So, sitting together at night, I opened the card and he read it to me. It was seriously the most beautiful thing I’ve ever heard. He had managed to find a card with a really long quote that described his feelings for me wonderfully. Then, his message was so eloquent and heartfelt it made me cry (with joy, of course). It was the best end to a spectacular day.
Now that I look at this picture, I realize I should have taken a panoramic picture to share the immensity of this valley. This is the view from the Bel Air Presbyterian Church, looking out on the San Fernando Valley.
When I got home, I found an e-mail from Katana, outlining her contrasting experience: after painstakingly preparing gifts for her boyfriend to present today, she got the ultimate letdown when he didn’t even remember the occasion. It’s a sad thing when one person cares so much and the other puts in no effort. For such a memorable day, my Valentine’s was nearly just as dismal.
You see, last weekend when I was visiting Panda, I tried casually asking him what he was doing this Saturday – he was headed home for the long weekend. Crushed, we then spent the next hour or so talking about why I was upset with him. It’s not so much that I need to celebrate the holiday, but I did want to see him and it hurt when it seemed like he didn’t even bother to think about it. Had I not asked, I may very well have been alone today, moping at home.
So, though I had a fabulous time, it didn’t come without a fight. I often need to give Panda a little push (or big shove) in the right direction for him to get a clue as to what he’s supposed to do. No, I don’t ask for gifts from him and yes, I pay for my own meals. I’m not into material things; I much prefer his time and attention. Then there are things like these where the consideration should at least be discussed, but he just doesn’t seem to understand that it’s important to me. I mean, it is an internationally recognized holiday after all, whether you like to celebrate it or not. Doesn’t that at least deserve a mention? Sometimes it amazes me how thick-headed guys can be.
I suppose this is something I should get used to, always throwing out clues and hinting about what he should be doing and resorting to outright telling him when he doesn’t pick up on the signals. Successful relationships need good communication and it seems that extra effort is needed when it comes to this particular area. It just would be nice if he could figure it out on his own and surprise me (like he did with that card) a little more often. Perhaps he’ll learn with time… When it comes down to it though, it’s like he said – we will work together and work to understand each other.