I’ve never been one to ask for help. Even though the people around me have been more than willing to do so, I grew up so used to doing things on my own that it doesn’t even occur to me to ask much of the time. I have learned to be an extremely resourceful person and therefore, I love to share all the things I discover. Yet rarely do I turn to my family and friends to ask them for their opinion or input on something. Instead, I take the “I can do it” attitude a bit too far and miss out on the opportunity to bond with them and make them feel useful to me.
This is something I’m working on changing so I can allow myself to rely on others every now and then. But it’s a hard thing to do, placing trust in someone else when you’d much rather just do it yourself. It’s hard to resist the urge to hop online and find the answers I need on my own. I realize I’ve missed out on a lot because of this, from time spent getting help on my homework so I wouldn’t waste so much time not getting it to relationships that didn’t deepen because I didn’t open up very much. It’s a slow process to break this instinct to plow through piles of information to get my desired answer, rather than to interrupt a conversation or approach someone to ask them for their wealth of knowledge.
One great thing about my fraternity’s mailing list is that we can share with each other all sorts of information and ask for help if needed. That is one of the few places I’ve ever reached out to ask for others’ opinions, thoughts, or knowledge. Even then, I much prefer to help out whenever I can and share my experiences and expertise. I think it’s wonderful to have a network like that that I can tap into whenever I want, it’s like having friends who never leave you, even if you hardly keep in touch. I’m more used to maintaining relationships that are far less maintenance than traditional ones, where the closest people to me only talk to me periodically, typically monthly or less.
So, now with a boyfriend who I can’t go a day without talking to in one way or another, I’m starting to learn more about maintaining relationships. Though it’s difficult to remain close to people when everyone is moving about all around the world, there are still plenty of ways to stay in touch and remain updated on each others’ lives. I’m also trying to keep track of who is doing what, who is good at what, who likes what, etc. so I can tap into that in future, whether by asking for help or offering an opportunity. I don’t know how quickly I can change an age-old habit of self-sufficiency, but to feel more in touch with people, I’ll try to make the effort. Perhaps getting around to replying to all my facebook wall posts will be the start!« Prev：TV’s lack of appeal The ones who blast their music：Next »