Those of you active on facebook have probably been tagged in the “25 random things about me” note by this point. In case you haven’t it’s this note that someone started by writing 25 tidbits about him/herself (I’m just going to pretend this was a girl and use the appropriate pronouns) and tagging 25 people who she wanted to learn more about. You are supposed to include whoever tagged you as well, so they can read what you wrote. I think it’s the most passed-on note of all facebook history. After I’d been tagged a few times, I decided it was my turn to continue the trend and I found myself reflecting on college:
“After I graduated, I thought I’d miss college a lot. Surprisingly, I’m ok. Possibly because I am still there all the time (at least once a week), but I think also because this is the only time I can get away with weeks of not having something/somewhere I had to go, certain times I have to get up, and no deadlines to meet. I spent a lot of time watching TV shows, which I haven’t done since middle school – Gilmore Girls, House, Pushing Daisies, and now Lie to Me. Now that I’m all but caught up on the last episodes of House and Lie to Me, I’ve been filling my time with a lot of reading. To some extent I’m learning a lot more than I ever did in school. From career advice to relationship advice, Asian American perspectives to Gen Y opinions, I’m covering a lot of ground. The great thing is everything I’m learning is useful!
Looking back and reading others’ thoughts on college is making me think of it more as a place to blossom and learn about yourself than to really learn anything concrete for your future. To some extent, yes, there are facts and figures to be remembered. But for the most part, it’s about figuring out what you want to do, how you interact with people, where you fit in the world, the type of people you should surround yourself with, etc. Except for highly specified fields, the degree you walk away almost never tells anything about your future. (I just realized this is starting to sound like something that should be a blog post. Sorry. I’ll go write up an entry on this instead.)”
Here I am, making good on that promise.
I’ve read articles on why this guy regretted getting straight A’s in college, tips on what college students should do to prepare themselves for their professional future, and a personal account of lessons learned outside the college classroom. It all made me realize that there’s a bigger picture here, beyond the quest for perfect grades.
We enter college thinking that this is our ticket to that job we wanted. And in many ways, it is. Just not the way you’d expect. People spend so much time agonizing over what major to study, what classes to take, and what school to go to in the first place. Yet what matters more are the people you’ll meet, the skills (and not so much the facts) you’ll learn, and the experience you can look back on.
What should you be capitalizing on? Networking, self-discovery, and lessons in life. The spectrum of people you meet in college will trounce any high school experience you’ve had (unless you’re going to some small private university meant for a very specific demographic). It is important to notice the types of people you get along with, the types who rub you the wrong way, and your interactions with them. Life is largely composed of relationships and looking at your interactions with people can tell you a lot about your personality and preferences.
When I look back on my time at UCLA and studying abroad at the University of York, I hardly cherish the facts drilled into me as much as how my friends, organizations, and even living situations have shaped me. From them, I have learned that I enjoy company and never want to live alone. They have shown me how much I love to travel and meet new people in foreign cultures. They have shown me how loyal I can be and what motivates me to get things done. They have even taught me a bit about relaxation and what soothes me in stressful times.
I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to know yourself. What are your passions? What are your fears? It is only when you begin to understand the “why” behind the “what” that you can apply that knowledge towards personal fulfillment. Find what drives you and use that to motivate you towards your goals. And while it’s important to be aiming for something, it’s also important to know how you can get there while enjoying yourself.
The idea is to not take things at face value, but look for the deeper lessons to be learned. Lessons about you as a person and how you fit into the world. College is a great place for you to meet the best and brightest to learn with.
Side note:
One of the great things about blogging (or keeping a private journal/diary) is your ability to look back and see how much you’ve changed. I kept a blog for about two years in the early stages of my college career and when I went back to read what I had written so long ago, I was surprised to notice how things have progressed. Even if you don’t have access to that type of insight, I don’t know anyone who looks back on college and thinks, “Oh yeah, just another four years of my life.” No, college is life-altering. Take advantage of it.
