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Life as a game

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Go check out this TED video and if you’re not interested in the beginning bit, skip over to about 20 minutes in.  I find it fascinating, the way he’s describing how our lives are going to resemble a game more and more.  And it’s true!  I mean, it’s already so prevalent – think of all the things you’re signed up for to earn points.  Credit cards, store member cards, search engines, and really just about any service these days are using points to entice you to use them more.  I mean, I search with Swagbucks.com because I want to earn Swagbucks.  I use only one credit card (my Chase Sapphire) because I like racking up points on it.  My mom obsesses over getting frequent flyer miles every time we travel.  I never forget to enter my Ralph’s customer card number when I buy food there (not only to get the discounts, but also to collect the rewards).

I think it’s pretty brilliant.  When you make life into one massive game full of a series of mini-games, people have greater motivation to get things done.  Even better is when things are transparent and these accounts are linked to your social media account, so your friends can see how you’re doing.  People like to win, so seeing someone else did better than them encourages them to spend more time and effort to get a higher score.  Then with sensors, just about everything you do can be tracked and have consequences.  If you don’t have healthy habits, your insurance premium will go up – there’s a strong motivator to just fit in that quick half hour each day!

I think it comes down to accountability.  When people are easily able to hide what they do (or don’t do) and lie to themselves about how well they’re taking care of themselves, they’re more likely to continue with those bad habits.  But the moment everyone knows if you’ve flossed today, or had too much to drink, or didn’t get enough sleep, you want to do what you can to improve yourself.  Plus, having some friendly competition to egg you along doesn’t hurt.  If you see on your friend’s profile that they worked out every day for the past month and you haven’t done squat, it makes you reconsider, doesn’t it?

In a way, it’s bad though – if companies and the government can track you so closely, they’re going to make assumptions about you that may not be true.  Just because you don’t eat healthy doesn’t mean you can’t appear perfectly healthy in a physical and feel great.  There have got to be certain controls put into place protecting people’s privacy so insurance companies can’t rip people off because they don’t have the healthiest habits.  After all, the whole point is to protect against the unknown.  Trying to make too many predeterminations can lead dangerously close to a sort of eugenics and determinism.  But overall, I think turning our lives into games would lead to better results.  Let’s see how long it takes to happen!

Workaholic?

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I enjoy working.  The month started off slowly for me, with my workload dwindling, and after a week and a half, I had just about taken care of all my emails from the past month, followed up on as many things as I could, and caught up on some random tasks.  I had my reports done, emails answered, and time left over to get distracted.  It felt weird.  I didn’t know what to do with myself.  I’ve never considered myself a workaholic, but when I’m working, I like having plenty to do, always more than can be finished that day.  I don’t like finishing everything and twiddling my thumbs.  So by the end of two weeks, I mentioned to a coworker that I had some free time on my hands and could help if he had something for me to do.

I can really get into the zone when I’m hard at work, zoning out people passing by and other distractions.  At times, it’s hard to tear myself away for lunch, but once I do manage to (if I do…), I can let go and enjoy my meal.  And when things are slowing towards the end of the day, I can tie off loose ends and save some of the work for the next morning.  I don’t generally need to stay late and have rarely stayed beyond half an hour more than usual.  I can leave work at work, but gosh, when I’m there, I do like to actually work.  Maybe because being productive makes my time feel worthwhile.  Maybe because it makes the time fly by.  Or maybe just because I really do enjoy the work I do!  It’s a great feeling and I’m really glad I came across a job that is such a steal.  I don’t mind getting buried work during the day.

It’s wonderful to have a job like this, that I can work hard at and feel good about, with no complaints.  I really can’t think of anything I dislike about the job.  I remember anticipating full-time work and the horrors of getting up every day at the same time, not getting a summer break or the various other vacation times, and a whole slew of other things that people hate about the daily grind.  But I’ve got a great deal – I don’t need to get up earlier than 8:30, I don’t have to shove down lunch in half an hour (unless I want to), and I have fun coworkers and supervisors.  It’s no wonder I like to go in to work (though I admit I still have trouble waking up in the morning) and be a good, productive employee.

So yay for the new opportunities that are filling up my schedule once again.  A slow day or even a slow week may be nice once in awhile, but I’d rather be busy getting things done.  I don’t think I’m a workaholic in the strictest sense, but in many ways – healthy ways – I can be.

Alone

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I spend much of my time alone with my thoughts, and to fill the air with something other than those thoughts floating around, I like to watch videos online (either TED.com ones or some TV show that isn’t airing) or play games.  But sometimes, the quiet of the night catches up with me and I begin to anticipate the day when Panda has to go to the east coast for work and I really will be alone.  Then I will no longer have someone to look forward to seeing at night or on the weekends.  It’ll just be me and whatever apartment I eventually end up living in.  Maybe I’ll start Facebooking again, or maybe I’ll spend more time on this blog.  Maybe I’ll even get around to reading more books.

By the time I get home from work, it’ll almost be time for him to hit the sack, so most of my nights will be void of his presence.  I suppose I could try sleeping earlier and working out to kill some of the time, but the rest of it… well, I wonder what I’ll do with myself.  The good thing, at least, is that I know that the anticipation of it is far worse than actually doing it.  After all, we’ve been through this before – and back then, we were still so fresh in our relationship.  Now we’ve solidified some things and really made room in our lives for each other.  And at least this time around the place he’s going isn’t as inaccessible as Singapore was.  There is no $1000+ plane ticket standing between us.  Just one for a couple hundred bucks, maybe even only in the double digits if we get a good deal.

It just sucks sometimes, having that sort of a void at night, when he’s busy doing something and I’m sitting there, bored of all the games I’ve been able to find and tired of watching video after video.  Then what do I do?  There is no Panda to share my day with and talk about random things with.  I hope I find a place with a gym, so I can fill my time with getting in shape.  I guess I’ll also start to figure out where the local library is.  Then again, I do have some books at home that I’ve been meaning to tackle for awhile now.  I hate when I get to thinking of what I’ll do when the time comes though.  That’s the hardest part.

Cats are my type of pet

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Cats control.  Perhaps that’s why I like cats.  They like to be in control, just like I like to be in control.  Here’s an interesting video on how they use purring to get what they want.  They know how to get what they want and I generally do too.  And they love to nap!  I think more than that, it is their independent lifestyle though.  I don’t like dogs because they’re too needy.  I can leave a cat alone for days with no issue.  A dog would probably destroy the house and find a way to hurt himself.  Plus, cats don’t smell the way dogs do.  One of my greatest peeves is when a dog tries to lick my face – I don’t want to be anywhere near that, because their breath just reeks!

I think it’s fascinating that cats only purr for people.  At some point, they learned that doing so would make us happy, so now they know how to use it to get us to give them what they want.  I respect their smarts and love that they present a challenge.  They don’t always do what you want, but when they do, you can bet something went right.  I feel like you really have a relationship with them – some give and take and learning how to work with each other.  Dogs, on the other hand, just follow you around and give you all the attention and love you could ever need.  It’s suffocating.  I like pets that also can leave me alone.  And I like knowing that I’ve earned the good treatment I’m getting, rather than getting it because that’s all my pet does.  I suppose I prefer the depth of personality versus the unconditional love.

Cats are really misunderstood and it’s unfortunate.  They make for richer relationships.  Not to say that dogs don’t have personalities, but they’re not as complex as cats are.  And they certainly aren’t as clean.  It’s much easier to maintain a cat than a dog!  No walking, no barking to deal with, and so much less energy required.  It’s perfect for me; low-key and laid back, just the way I like it.  I can’t wait to get my next cat.  All my childhood ones have passed on.  🙁  I miss that sort of companionship and nothing is more soothing than hugging a purring cat.

Long live… you?

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I happened upon this article the other day, talking about how scientists have come across genetic markers common to those who seem to have extreme longevity, living well into their 100s.  The article points out that knowing you have these genes could really impact the way you plan to live out your life.  After all, when your retirement lasts a good 20 years beyond what you might have expected, there is a lot to consider.  I can see how this type of knowledge could be really useful, since it’d give you a better idea if you should be seriously considering making plans for how you are going to live well after the normal life expectancy.

I actually wouldn’t really want to live so long though.  There may be plenty to do and endless knowledge to accrue, but I think once you get to a certain age, you start to become too much of a burden.  Unless you’ve saved up expecting to live to 120 and your health remains strong, financial issues will begin to surface one way or another.  I’d hate to be clinging on to life at 110 years old, living off my progeny because my retirement funds dried up 25 years ago and medical bills started to stack up well before that.  What’s the point, at that point?  What more is there to live for?  Not to be morbid or anything, but I’d rather make peace with everything I’d done in my life, say goodbye to my loved ones (if I could), and let nature take its course.  If I’m sick and broke, I’m doing no good to anyone and probably causing those closest to me the most harm.

It’s a silly little thing, but I’ve always thought that 88 is a nice age to live to.  (Perhaps just because it’s a very lucky number in the Chinese culture.)  I think by then I’ll have done most of the things I want to do without any major desires to fulfill.  Of course that is only speculation and we’ll have to see how things go as I age.  But whenever I get to the point where I’ve deteriorated so much mentally and/or physically that I’m a burden, I’d like to be able to call it a life and let the world move on without me.  People come and go and at some point, living just to stay alive becomes senseless.  We humans have such a strong drive to live on, and I’d certainly feel robbed if I had to die before I could retire and have grandkids and experience the world a bit more, but if I got to do all that… I’d be at peace leaving things to the future generations.

But first, I want to live a full life!  And though I’d like it to be long, I don’t want it to drag out to be too long.

Child-rearing philosophy

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So I mentioned a little while back that I am watching Medium, and I have found I have little patience for overbearing parents.  I get annoyed that they are always so worried – you’re too young to have an email account, you’re too young to walk home alone, you’re too young to stay home alone.  Blah, blah, blah.  What is this crazy control these parents think they can exert?  Sure, you should be careful, but you never let your child out of their gilded cage, they’ll never learn to fend for themselves.  The world, though filled with its dangers, is also totally to navigate without being hand-held the whole way through.

I quite like the way that I grew up and it had nothing to do with what I’m seeing in this show, and in other families.  Granted, by the time the internet and email came around, I was already a pre-teen, so there wasn’t much concern over when I’d be ready.  Then again, the eldest daughter in the show wasn’t allowed to get an email account until she was 13 or 14 (and only under the condition that her parents had full access).  I got myself plenty of accounts, as well as instant message screen names and even free websites.  I stayed home alone for a few hours here and there as early as 8 and by the time I was in 6th grade, I’d be home alone for days at a time.

A child who had a babysitter stay with them instead wouldn’t have learned the responsibility that I did.  How do you expect someone to take care of herself when you never let her be on her own?  No wonder it’s a huge deal for parents when their beloved child is off to college.  It’s the first time in 18 years they’ve ever let them leave the house for more than a week!  But me, I got to travel and visit relatives in China.  I got to go to a variety of summer camps and enjoy myself, learn more about myself and the world.  I would have hated to stay with my parents all the time, sleep in the same bed every night.  Perhaps that is why I had absolutely no trouble traveling through Europe alone for a couple of weeks.  Perhaps that is why I never got too homesick while studying abroad for a year.  These are skills that can be learned very early and life and it certainly helps you cope with the situations that can arise in your adult life.

I don’t believe in parents always peering over their child’s shoulder, not giving them privacy or space to grow and learn.  I am great at detecting spam mail or other shady business because I have seen it since I first got on the internet.  I know exactly how to take care of myself when I am alone.  I don’t put myself in dangerous situations and when I am alone in a foreign place, I am always conscious of my surroundings, making sure no stranger gets too close or that anyone is following me.  I learned a lot of street smarts by being out in the world.  I don’t think there’s any other way to do it.  So when it comes time for me to be a parent, I am not going to prevent them from going to sleepovers or seeing boys/girls or getting an email account all to themselves.  I’d rather teach them the skills to know how to take care of themselves in each situation.  After all, experience is the best teacher, isn’t it?

Reevaluation

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It’s been around a year now since I decided I would do a daily entry for this blog.  As I adjust to working life, perhaps it is time to consider posting a little less than daily.  I have accidentally missed a day or two here and there so far and I wonder if I should just let days like that go.  So far I’ve been making them up right away.  It wouldn’t be a tragedy if posted 4-5 times a week, would it?  I’m just afraid that one day off will lead to another and slowly things will dwindle.  If I stick to the strict regimen of one post per day, it keeps me on track and doesn’t allow room to stray.  Maybe I need that sort of discipline.

I think I’ll give it a try though, allowing myself to skip a day here and there and see if I start slipping.  If that’s the case, I’ll tighten up my resolve and go back to one a day for consistency’s sake.

Lakers domination

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Oh yes, even Kobe has one.

No, I am not writing about the Lakers’ victory today.  But in these weeks leading up to these games, Los Angeles has been speckled with Lakers flags.  You can’t drive anywhere without seeing them!  You know what I’m talking about.  Those little flags that flutter in the wind as cars drive, barely hanging on for dear life as the wind whips them into ragged pieces of cloth.  They’re super annoying for reasons I can’t seem to pinpoint, but admit it, you think so too.  As an avid Lakers fan, I’m sure you wouldn’t admit though, would you?

Then I heard there were riots going on after Tuesday’s game?  What insanity.  Today everyone left for work early, leaving me all alone because they had to rush home to catch this momentous match-up.  Oh, and of course they spent the day figuring out how to bet to win the most money!  I am amazed at the level of obsession fans have.  It’s really quite interesting to observe, so long as it doesn’t get dangerous.  I made sure to stay home tonight lest there were trouble on the streets, from elated Lakers fans or bitter Celtics fans.  At least summer has come and most students have moved out of the area for this week to be at home before summer school or internships start.  We got some loud honking and rowdy behavior, but nothing too bad.

Seriously though, what is it about the Lakers that makes Angelenos go wild?  Maybe it’s just because I don’t connect with the city the way that I do my school.  I can imagine being that excited if UCLA basketball or football won a championship.  But the Lakers?  Though purple is my favorite color and they do have Jordan Farmar, it’s just not enough to get me to join in the wild celebrations.  I wouldn’t mind so much if those annoying flags weren’t a part of the picture…  By the way, click on the picture to see the source and read the article that comes with it – you’ll find another gem of a picture there.

Banning scary

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I’m not a fan of scary movies or shows, but murder mysteries are fine with me.  I can’t remember the last horror film I watched (if I ever did) and I certainly don’t ever plan on seeing one.  I don’t see the appeal in spooking yourself and I’m great at scaring myself as it is.  So, instead I stick to shows like NCIS or Lie to Me, where though there is danger and death, there isn’t anything too sinister.

And now happily, I have chosen to pick up Medium to add to my repertoire of shows.  Initially I was afraid it would be too dark, but after previewing an episode, it seems there aren’t any terribly traumatizing scenes.  With six seasons, there are plenty of shows to keep me occupied when I just want to sit back at night and not have to think too hard.  Oh the wonder of television entertainment…  🙂

I ban all things scary from my life and I think the world would do better to do so too.  Why add that stress and worry to your life?  You can get thrills from plenty of other things.  But hey, to each his own.

Eating ritual

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Lately I’ve noticed that I always smell my food before I eat it, getting a good whiff of the scent to prime my taste buds for enjoyment. It may seem strange and sometimes I catch myself and wonder what people who see me doing that would think. There are times when people find it normal, like when you get a steaming bowl of soup set before you. I think it should be something we do for all our food though! There are some fantastic smells to experience and sniffing something appetizing only makes us enjoy it more. I definitely think engaging another sense, especially one as powerful as smell, can enhance the experience.

Think about how your mouth waters when you get a whiff of your neighbor’s cooking. The anticipation itself can make the experience so much better. So next time you’re getting ready to take a bite into a delicious bit of food, stop and take good long inhalation of the aroma first. I bet it will make you enjoy your food that much more.

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