Posts Tagged ‘behavior’

Cathartic cry

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I’ve been watching Criminal Minds and today I got to an episode that was particularly heart-wrenching.  I found myself bawling my eyes out and surprisingly, it actually felt kind of good.  I guess every now and then it’s nice to have a release like that.  I actually found myself crying harder than you might expect for the level of sadness in the show, but I suppose it was just because the floodgates were finally opened.  I can’t remember the last time I cried, so I wonder if I’ve built up a lot of emotion to release or if it was just because I thought of how terrible it would be if I had to endure such a hardship.

My eyes are overworked from that and I’m pretty tired.  Crying is hard work!  There was a lot of tear-wiping, sniffling, and nose-blowing for about 5 minutes.  It feels like I did some vigorous activity – suddenly I’m hungry, thirsty, and drained.  Thank goodness I have no plans this upcoming Saturday, so I can finally sleep in way later than I should and recover from a lack of restfulness this week.  I’m glad that the show was able to bring out some of the stronger emotions in me, since I haven’t had much need for intense joy or sadness the past couple of months.  There have definitely been ups and downs, and this allowed me to cry out some of the downs.  Funny how the human body and psyche work.

Fish ritual

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Even fish can have rituals, right?

fishy dance from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

A game of Freeze

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They would most certainly win.

frozen lizards from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

motionless lizards from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

Roaring cats

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It sounds like roaring to us, but hey maybe this is just how they talk.

roaring lions from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

Awesome aquatic pets

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If I could have a huge saltwater tank, I’d want a pet ray. Remove the stinger and these guys are amazing – so soft, so graceful, and quite friendly too!

This guy was so eager to be petted he was coming out of the water!

bobbing ray from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

They’re not just soft, they kind of feel… fluffy.

petting spotted ray from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

I quite like the cownose ones, probably because this one was super friendly.

pet cownose ray from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

Their little mouths are so cute! They look like a face themselves, but the eyes of course are actually on top. I believe those are the nostrils?

ray face from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

Cleaning ritual

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We people are funny creatures.  We love to clean before we have guests over, or when a loved one returns from some time away.  Why is that?  Why is cleaning up so important before someone shows up?  I think a lot of it is a need to have control and orderliness.  After all, humans are always trying to control their environment, are they not?  Keeping things organized makes them easier to manage (aka control).  And so it is, we clean before any sort of occasion to control the impression we make on visitors and family alike.

Even I succumb to this.  Before Panda showed up this weekend, I put most of my things away and tidied up a little bit.  I tend to leave things around because I feel like a home isn’t really lived in if everything is tucked away perfectly.  However, I didn’t want Panda coming to my place to find nowhere to sit except on top of my clothes (my seating areas are perfect for piling up clothes).  I also didn’t want him to have to step over random bags or shoes to get around.  I guess it came down to a practicality thing.  But for most people, the appearance of a neat and orderly life is imperative to making a good impression.

Somehow along the way we decided that being messy was a bad thing.  The entire housekeeping industry relies upon this viewpoint.  To a certain extent, it is perfectly understandable; nobody wants to walk into a hotel room to find things in disarray.  Yet, in our own homes I think we could be a lot more flexible on the cleaning rituals we set.  What’s wrong with jeans thrown over the back of a chair or a ruffled blanket?  They don’t necessarily present health hazards.  Personally, I prefer to keep them that way.  Unfortunately that’s not how society views things and I know I’d get judged (however slightly) if I weren’t to change my habits when guests came around.  It’s too bad!  We could do with less time cleaning and more time focused on other things.

Hermit the crab

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hermit crab from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

They don’t get it

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When some people found out that Panda and I will have Skype on as we go about our normal business, they didn’t understand it.  They asked me what the point is and they found it to be weird.  Obviously they don’t take the same comfort that I do in just having him around (in whatever form required).  I don’t believe that conversations should have to be staged for a certain period of time just because you are on a phone or meeting with each other.  That works for those you don’t get to see much.  But for someone you’re dating, it’s just not enough.  Plus, it’s much more natural to have spurts of conversation based on what is happening in real time, rather than condensing everything you want to share into a few minutes a day.

So what better than to sit on Skype, being able to check in on each other and see what the other is doing?  I mean, it’s as close to being in the same room as you can possibly get when you’re (thousands of) miles away.  And really, the best sort of interaction is in person, so I don’t see why more people wouldn’t want to sit around video chatting their loved ones.  I guess part of it is my inability to relate to their need to keep things from their significant other.  It’s a common theme among the talk I hear about relationships.  Why do people have so many secrets to keep?  While I understand you don’t always want to share everything, I certainly never feel the need to hide things and Panda actually errs on the side of sharing too much.

I love being able to look up from what I’m doing and see how he is when I am unable to actually be with him.  I like the freedom of being able to come and go and not have to continuously call him back or disrupt his routine.  Apparently other people just like to have their lives to themselves, but me?  I like to have Panda around as much as possible.  That’s why I keep my Skype on.

Scaredy fish

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He seems scared of something! Maybe he only feels safe when against a wall… quite unusual for a fish.

suction fish from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

Baby monkey

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A little baby monkey has some fun ruffling up leaves at the Singapore Zoo. Meanwhile, the adult one climbs up to a treehouse lookout.

baby monkey from Mary Qin on Vimeo.

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